What is EQ?
EQ is the acronym for
Emotional Intelligence. So what is Emotional Intelligence ?You may be well
informed on I.Q which stands for Intelligence Quotient, but for emotion we also
has E.Q. It simply means Emotional Quotient.
Many people thought
that we can be successful if we have high I.Q but many forgot that we should
also have high emotion stability regardless situation to be a top notch person.
Why?simply because we
tend to meet many people with many characters and personalities. Some are
pleasant but many are not. We may at times just want to hit people when they
say hurtful things to us.
Hence to face all
odds one should have a very strong character to stay focus and not to mention
being perfectly happy be it shine or rain throughout life.
“IQ is not the only
predictor of your success, a high IQ is not a guarantee of career success. You
do need your technical abilities, your competencies at a specific skill or
within a specific subject matter, but to thrive you need your ability to get
along with other people. The most successful leaders also have a high degree of
emotional intelligence.
And here is the great
news; EQ (unlike IQ) can be developed.
Emotional
intelligence: “the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and
emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s
thinking and action.” - Peter Salovey
and John D. Mayer.
“The abilities to
recognize and regulate emotions in ourselves and others” – Daniel Goleman and
Gary Cherniss.
Why should you care
about your EQ? Perhaps you will humor me by reading just one more quote:
“75% of careers are
derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including inability to
handle interpersonal problems; unsatisfactory team leadership during times of
difficulty or conflict; or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust.” — The Center for Creative Leadership, 1994
So 75% of careers
derail for reasons that relate to something that we can all work on and
improve? Of course you care!
What makes up
EQ? There are five components:
Self-Awareness – A person who is
self-aware understands their own moods and emotions and also how those moods
and emotions may impact others.
Self-Regulation – Someone who
exhibits self-regulation thinks before they act. Remember that person you
worked for? The one who used to get red in the face, yell and scream and throw
notebooks across the room? They were not exhibiting self-regulation at all.
Motivation – If you love to
work and it is not just for money or for status; if you have a strong drive to
achieve; then you know about motivation.
Empathy – The empathetic
individual is able to understand the emotions of others and also learns to
treat them as they wish to be treated.
Social
Skill
– Do you know someone who is able to meet new people and immediately develop a
rapport with them? It is likely that they are very accomplished in the area of
social skill.”
